Changing Expectations and Self-Concept

When I see others’ expectations of me change I first assess myself to gauge the realistic nature of their expectations based on my self-concept.  If the person is someone I believe knows me well I would then give consideration to the matter. 

I would probably have been considered a classic under-achiever in the past and have lately been making a real attempt to apply myself.  I feel good about it and am confident that recent changes in my behaviors have helped improve my self-concept.  Going back to school was a difficult step for me to take, but since I made the decision I have felt much better about myself.  I am a more confident and positive person now.  I believe that my family and friends have taken notice and seem to expect more from me.  I’m much more accepting of high expectations now that I feel as though I am a more capable and responsible person. 

I feel that my behaviors first change when someone changes their expectations of me and then my self-concept.  If I succeed in meeting someone’s high expectations or if I am able to disprove someone’s lowered expectations I feel accomplished and change my self-concept.  If I fail to meet someone’s high expectations or someone’s lowered expectations prove to be accurate I experience feelings of failure and alter my self-concept.  A self-appraisal of my performance after others’ expectations have or have not been met helps me better understand myself.